5 Ways to Stay Motivated at Work When You Feel Underappreciated
Be Self-Motivated Instead of Relying on Others for Validation
Some people are intrinsically motivated and have little difficulty pushing forward with difficult work—regardless of whether or not they get recognition. But not everyone. Many people can't stand being underappreciated when putting in hours of hard work.
Feeling underappreciated at work? If you want to turn that around and get more of the praise and acknowledgment you deserve, the one thing you can't afford to do is let your performance slip.
Maybe you need to feel success, validation, encouragement regularly in order to keep pushing forward. If so, it can be difficult to stay motivated at work when you feel underappreciated.
The Pitfalls of Underappreciation
If you were to take two people and give one of them a $1,000 bonus for their hard work and another a five-minute talk on how much you appreciate their hard work and what they mean to the company, which individual do you think would walk away feeling more motivated to succeed?
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not the one with the monetary reward. In almost every case, the person who is verbally told that they’re appreciated is going to be more motivated.
This example speaks to the dangers of having employees that feel underappreciated, the human need for appreciation, and the power of making people feel valued in the workplace.
“Feeling genuinely appreciated lifts people up,” explains Tony Schwartz, president, and CEO of The Energy Project. “At the most basic level, it makes us feel safe, which is what frees us to do our best work. It’s also energizing. When our value feels at risk, as it so often does, that worry becomes preoccupying, which drains and diverts our energy from creating value.”
The problem is that many employees don’t feel appreciated by their employers in today’s business culture. As a result, motivation and productivity often lack. This creates a dangerous loop where a lack of appreciation leads to a lack of work and creates friction in the workplace.
It’s not just that a lack of appreciation impacts output, though — it actually causes physical harm in the form of stress and anxiety. According to a well-known study, employees who feel unfairly criticized by their bosses have a 30% higher rate of coronary disease than those who feel appreciated.
“In the workplace itself, researcher Marcial Losada has found that among high-performing teams, the expression of positive feedback outweighs that of negative feedback by a ratio of 5.6 to 1,” Schwartz continues. “By contrast, low-performing teams have a ratio of .36 to 1.”
Next, you have to take a look at the concept of negativity bias. This bias, which is intrinsically built into the human brain, says that negative experiences are more easily remembered and perceived than positive ones. Negative stimuli cause the brain’s alarm bells to scream, whereas positive stimuli merely cause temporary satisfaction.
“The alarm bell of your brain — the amygdala (you’ve got two of these little almond-shaped regions, one on either side of your head) — uses about two-thirds of its neurons to look for bad news: it’s primed to go negative,” says Rick Hanson, Ph.D. “Once it sounds the alarm, negative events and experiences get quickly stored in memory — in contrast to positive events and experiences, which usually need to be held in awareness for a dozen or more seconds to transfer from short-term memory buffers to long-term storage.”
When you couple the need for feeling appreciated with our innate proclivity towards negativity bias, it’s easy to see why so many people struggle to be motivated at work. It’s a serious problem that businesses–on an individual and collective basis–need to work through.
Ways to Stay Motivated at Work
According to a Gallup Poll of American workers, 65% of people report feeling a lack of appreciation at work. And that feeling leads to negativity, low morale, and decreased productivity.
So, if you feel underappreciated, at least you aren’t alone. But with that being said, here are some practical things you can do to avoid wallowing in despair and stay motivated.
Focus on Small Victories
We’ve all had those days where nothing seems to go our way. The printer jams right before a big meeting. A client won’t call you back. You spill coffee on your white shirt. Your boss recognizes someone else for something you actually did.
“On days like this, it can sometimes help to look for small victories,” marketer Matt Keener advises. “For example, let’s say you really need to get started on a big presentation. It’s due by the close of business, but you just can’t get moving on it. Rather than staring at a blank presentation deck for thirty minutes, put the project aside and find something ‘bite-sized’ to do.”
When you look for small victories, you force your brain to stop automatically focusing on negative stimuli. This counteracts the negativity bias and helps you be more aware of the positive things that are happening.
Motivate Yourself With Goals
The wonderful thing about being human is that you have the capacity to set your own goals and find joy in accomplishing them. In fact, you can foster self-appreciation.
Since you don’t get a ton of positive feedback from your superiors, you may have to set your own goals and track your progress.
“If that motivation comes from seeing how your work makes a difference, create a visual representation of that,” entrepreneur John Boitnott suggests. “If you answer calls on a customer support line, keep charts of the number of tickets you close each week. If you process payments for your employer, track the improvements you’ve made in getting suppliers paid from one month to the next.”
When you do this, you’re able to create internal motivation. While this can’t fully replace positive encouragement from superiors, it serves as a small consolation to keep you going during desolate times.
Exercise Before Work
Sometimes the best source of motivation comes from outside the office. Specifically, there’s a lot to be gained from working out in the morning before you go to work. Whether it’s a CrossFit session at a nearby gym or a jog around the neighborhood, doing some physical activity will help you feel better about who you are, which only reinforces mental fortitude.
If you do choose to work out before work, make sure you create a tangible log of your progress. Ideally, you should keep this log in your office in a visible place. When you’re feeling defeated and don’t have any motivation, take a glance at the log and make a note of how well you’re doing in this area. You should be able to transfer some of those positive feelings back into your work for the day.
Recognize the Significance of Your Work
A lot of people feel underappreciated and lack motivation because they fail to see the significance of their work. While it’s ultimately up to your boss to convey this significance, you may have to do your own reflection if you aren’t getting any support in this area.
At first, you may think a certain task is useless, but dig deep. You aren’t just making a sales call. You’re making a sales call in order to sell a product that will provide value for someone else’s business. Should they purchase the product, it’ll help them grow their business and support their family. It’ll also add to your company’s bottom line, which will lead to growth and new opportunities for you and your co-workers.
See how thinking through something as simple as a sales call can help you fully appreciate the value of your work? It’s something fairly easy that you can do with just about any task or objective.
Sometimes the fact that you feel underappreciated goes totally unnoticed by your boss. They may be so busy that they don’t realize you’re feeling this way. If you suspect this may be the case, don’t be afraid to speak up.
You don’t want to come across as a whiny child, so be strategic in how you approach the conversation. Explain that you sometimes feel you aren’t living up to expectations and discuss some ways in which you can be motivated to continue being successful. If nothing else, this lets your boss know where you stand.
Discover and Encourage Self-Confidence
As you can see, there are plenty of ways to encourage motivation, despite an overwhelming lack of appreciation in your current job. The key is to foster self-confidence, even when nobody else is giving you the encouragement you crave.
It’s also important that you do your part in building a workplace culture that prioritizes appreciation. Even if you aren’t in a managerial or leadership role, you can still do small things that make people feel valued.
Here are a few ideas:
- Make it a point to go out of your way to say something nice about one co-worker per day. It could be something as simple as saying, “I thought you did a really nice job on that presentation. You should be proud.”
- People like to feel needed. When asking someone for help, make sure you explain that you specifically sought them out because you know they’re good at creative design (or whatever the case may be).
- If you’re working on a big project with a team of people, consider bringing in coffee, snacks, or lunch one day. A physical token of gratitude for hard work will lead to an instant boost in motivation.
- Pay attention to the details. If you ask someone to send you some information on a specific client and they do so immediately upon returning to their office, thank them for being so speedy with the response. These little things rarely get noticed by others.
By making your co-workers feel appreciated in small ways, you can do your part of creating a new culture. You’ll notice that acts of appreciation become contagious. Before you know it, an entirely new culture could emerge, with motivation and happiness on the horizon.